CURIOUS & CANDID
Ask me anything.
90 minutes. No judgment. No Nonsense.
Here's what I remember most about the early days of exploring the lifestyle: the questions.
How does this work? Are we cut out for this? Are we crazy? How do we keep ourselves, and our relationship, safe? What do I wear? Do we have to sleep with anyone? (Spoiler: nope.) How much body hair do we need to remove?
I had a hundred questions and no one to ask, because this world runs on discretion. That's part of what makes it work, and part of what makes it so hard to get started. You can't exactly ask your coworkers. Your friends might be curious too, or might be horrified, and you have no idea which. Online, you'll find a little bit of everything: hot takes, horror stories, forum threads from 2016. What's hard to find is someone who will just give you a straight answer.
That is what Curious & Candid is.
This is for you if…
You keep wondering "what if…" and you are ready to talk about it with someone who gets it
You have been reading, listening, lurking, and now you have questions
You and your partner are curious, but you're having trouble really deciding if this is something you want to take action on or not
Maybe you've dipped a toe in and want to talk through what happened (the good, the awkward, the "wait, what was that feeling?")
You want real answers from a real person who's lived it
Singles, couples, the curious, and the already-a-little-experienced are all welcome.
What we might talk about
Honestly? Anything. Here are a few questions I hear a lot:
How do we know if/when we're actually ready?
What's the difference between swinging, open, poly, and everything in between?
How do we bring this up with a partner without it going sideways?
What about jealousy?
Where do people even meet?
What are the rules? (And do we need them?)
Bring your list. Bring the question you are slightly embarrassed to ask. That is usually the best one.
How it works
Book your session. Pick a time that works for you.
Fill out a short intake form. You'll tell me a little about where you are and what's on your mind, so I come prepared and we don't waste a minute. This form is in the scheduler so it’s all one step.
Meet me on Zoom for 90 minutes. We'll make it private, candid, and as playful or as serious as you need.
Get your follow-up. Afterward you will recieve access to the recorded meeting so you can revisit or take more notes. Plus any resources we discuss for exactly where you are.
Is this a sales call in disguise?
Nope. This is a conversation. If, by the end, you want to go deeper with me, wonderful. Your session fee goes toward any coaching package you join within 30 days. If one session is all you needed, that's a beautiful outcome too.
What this isn't
Curious & Candid is a coaching conversation. It is open, warm, and as frank as you need it to be, but it has a purpose. Yes, of course we will speak frankly about sex, but let's be clear:
It's not a session for sexual gratification. This isn't a time to masturbate, or to share your fantasies for your own arousal (or, as some hope, mine).
It's not a performance. Couples, this isn't a time to get intimate with each other while someone watches.
It's not a rating. I won't tell you whether you're "attractive enough" for the lifestyle. Here's that answer for free: you don't need to be a 10 to be here. I'm not either. Swingers come in every shape, size, and age.
WHO I am
I’m a relationship coach, author of For Better or Even Better, and someone who’s lived this life, not just studied it. My mission is simple: to help people create their dream relationship, whether that’s monogamous or not. That means cutting through the stigma and misinformation so you can see your options clearly and choose for yourself. Learn more about me · Read what clients say
Your investment
$297 for a 90-minute private session, video recording, and personalized resources.
Book Your Curious & Candid Session
Your session is private and confidential. What's said between us stays between us.
A note on discretion. Your calendar invite will come from info@swinginglifestylecoach.com, and the charge will show on your card statement as "SLC Coach" (some card companies also show my email address). If either could be a problem, email me at info@swinginglifestylecoach.com before you book, and I'll set up your session and payment under a more neutral business name.’
Because the questions you're carrying deserve better than a midnight search bar.
The fine print
Every session is recorded. For quality and safety, all Curious & Candid sessions are recorded on Zoom. I will never share your recording. If you'd like a copy for your own records, I'll send you the link. Recording is a condition of booking and isn't optional (due to the ‘What This Isn’t’ section).
Sessions that go off course will end. If a call becomes overtly sexual or moves away from its purpose, I'll end it immediately, and no refund will be given.
Life happens, so rescheduling is easy. Reschedule at least 24 hours before your session and your payment simply moves to the new time. No-shows and changes made within 24 hours are not refunded.
By booking a session, you agree to these terms.
