fun stuff
lifestyle resources
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Dating / Community Sites
Sites tend to be very regional. Here’s a reference for some of them.
SDC (find me, SwingingCoach)
Kasidie (I’m SwingingCoach)
The Swinger Society (I’m SwingingLifestyleCoach)
Skirt Club - exclusive all-female community for empowerment and sexual discovery
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Lifestyle podcasts
A fun way to learn more and hear about others’ experiences. A few links below OR search on these wherever you listen to podcasts.
The Examined Lives (ENM Vibes) my own podcast examining where ENM shows up and is portrayed in the mainstream media.
Swing Nation (I’m on Jan 11, Swinging 101 and Nov 14, Swinger What-If’s)
That Other Lifestyle Podcast: (Jan 30: Challenging Monogamy: Insights from Lauren Hayes)
Relationship Diversity (ENM focused) - What Monogamous Couples Can Learn from Swingers to Transform Love and Intimacy with Lauren Hayes
Pineapple Express (find me on episodes 33 and 41)
Our Secret Spot (me again, episodes 53 & 54)
Normalizing Non-Monogamy (Yep, episode 305)
The Monogamish Marriage (S4E2) Sacred Sexuality. Me and my friend, Bre, talk about being Sacred Sluts.
We Gotta Thing
Front Porch Swingers
Hump Day Quickies : Swinger Confessions
New Swingers Podcast
The Accidental Swingers
Shameless Sex - this is not lifestyle, but ON TOPIC for what we all do
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Home STI (Sexually Transmitted Infection)Testing
STI (or STD) testing is an important facet that is added to our lives in the lifestyle. Here’s an at-home option for you if this is not something you are comfortable with your regular doc.
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My Free downloadable guides
Popping the ENM Question A guide for those who are curious but seek advice on how to bring it up with their partner.
Is ENM Right for You? A guide and quiz for couples considering non-monogamy.
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lifestyle vacations
Whether you are new or experienced, a lifestyle vacation can be a trip of a lifetime (but maaaaybe not one to write home about). Here are a few…
Sapio Tours: High-end European tours for the lifestyle community
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misc fun stuff
A couple lifestyle magazines, clothes, toys and lingerie, oh my! A few of my favorites, beyond Amazon.
Alt Life Magazine - Community built on consent and education with a sprinkle of spice and naughtiness. (I’m a contributor starting in August ‘23)
ASN Lifestyle Mag (I’m a contributor starting March ‘24 issue)
Yandy - lingerie and spicy clothes
DK Apparel - Wear your lifestyle
Lovehoney - toys retailer with discreet packaging
Love Fitness (Pineapple Collection) - fun workout wear - pineapples might be your new favorite
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lifestyle books
These are some references that helped us as well as fun reads
For Better or Even Better: 7 Lesson on Love & Life from a Non-Monogamist by me!
Ethical Slut, by Janet W. Hardy and Dossie Easton
The Anxious Person’s Guide to Non-Monogamy, by Lola Phoenix
More: Hotwives & Husbands, The Adventure Begins, Jay & Bella Mojas. A story about happy couples exploring hotwife andswing lfestyles. A fun read for the curious. Their site also has some other fun info & resources.
The Gentleman’s Almanac, by Peter Roy: Not just for men in the lifestyle, but also for men in the lifestyle.
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Books - Not LS, but relevant in our world
Shameless Sex by Amy Baldwin & April Lampert. @shamelesssexpodcast
Sex Talks by Vanessa Marin (Author), Xander Marin: fun couple with great advice if you are just starting to talking about sex. @vanessaandxander
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Organizations
Groups that formally advocate for the non-monogamous community and other important things.
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Other Cool Courses
Bella’s Jealousy Busting Master Class: Bella is a LS rockstar and was a self-proclaimed “very jealous person” before entering it. Her course is tried and true!
Beducated: Learn How to Have Great Sex
Single Men’s Guide to the Lifestyle: by Jayson Lee
Men’s Guide to Flirting in the Lifestyle:
by Jason LeeTouchless Orgasm by Jenn Wodtke
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Guys sexual performance in the lifestyle
Because this is a popular topic, here are a few podcasts (some specific episodes) and a book:
Man Up Podcast (general podcast, browse many topics)
Man Up Podcast: Using Your Mind to be Sexually Primed
We Gotta Thing: Confronting Men’s Performance Issues
The Sexy Lifestyle: Sex Club Etiquette and Erection Health
The Sexy Lifestyle: Men’s Sexual Health & Pleasure
Sexology: Male Sexual Health- Codes of Longevity
Great Sex: A Man’s Guide to the Secret Principles of Total-Body Sex (a book recommended by a sex coach friend of mine)
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What We’ve Watched on The Examined Lives Podcast
(S1E1‑8) The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives. Reality series. Hulu. 3 Seasons (we watched the first only). 5.8 / 10 IMDb, Ben and I gave it 1 star,
(S2E1) Easy. TV Series. Netflix. We followed a certain couple through a couple seasons. 6.8 / 10 IMDb, 3.5-stars from me.
(S2E2-3) From Couple to Throuple. Reality series. Peacock. 5.7/10 IMDb, 2 stars from me.
(S2E4-5) Wanderlust (2018). TV Series. Netflix. One season, 6.3/10 IMDb, 3 stars from me.
(S2E6) Dr. Marsden and his Wonder Woman (2017). Movie. 7.1/10 IMDb, 3.5 stars from me
(S2E7-8) Compersion (2016). Mini-series on YouTube. 8.6/10 IMDb, 3 stars from me.
(S2E9) Dying for Sex (2025). TV Mini Series. Hulu. 7.6/1- IMDb, 5 stars from me!
(S2E10) Trigonometry (2020). Mini Series, Amazon Video, 7.2/10 IMDb, 4 stars from me
S2E11) Splitsville (2025). Movie. 6.9/10 IMDb, 3.5 stars from me
