Openly undefined
The Heart & Soul of Non-Monogamy
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Ethical non-monogamy takes on many “forms”… polyamory, swinging, open marriage and everything in between. The thing about going non-traditional is that it gives you liberty to create what you want. Well, as long as everyone is aware and everyone is consenting. My husband and I classify as swingers, or in “the lifestyle.” We’ve met swingers who do swing, but don’t ‘identify’ with that term. We’ve met polyamorous couples who swing, and those who don’t. Actually, I have found that most open-relationship folks don’t really like to define themselves…it’s that whole non-traditional thing. The one thing we all have in common is being “open” to one degree or another. Open can be ridiculous amounts of fun. Open can be obscene amounts of sexiness. Open can also be complex. This is a blog about all of it.
If you find yourself unfamiliar with some of the terminology (common at first), here’s a Glossary of Terms to help.
My annals of anal
I would like to point out the incredible journey that anal sex has made in our culture. From something taboo and almost never talked about outside the context of gay men when I was sexually coming-of-age (teenage years), to now where it seems fairly common and openly spoken about, at least in the context of sex conversations. Maaaybe that’s because I’m a swinger, but I don’t think so as I often see it in popular culture. My personal journey with it has been similar in that I didn’t know about it, to never imagined myself having it, to totally enjoying it. That only took 30-ish years, with most of it happening within the last five. Perhaps similar to its journey in pop culture. I know even amongst my swinger friends this is an iffier proposition, so I thought this might help some people on their own journey with it, if they are on one.