Openly undefined
The Heart & Soul of Non-Monogamy
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Ethical non-monogamy takes on many “forms”… polyamory, swinging, open marriage and everything in between. The thing about going non-traditional is that it gives you liberty to create what you want. Well, as long as everyone is aware and everyone is consenting. My husband and I classify as swingers, or in “the lifestyle.” We’ve met swingers who do swing, but don’t ‘identify’ with that term. We’ve met polyamorous couples who swing, and those who don’t. Actually, I have found that most open-relationship folks don’t really like to define themselves…it’s that whole non-traditional thing. The one thing we all have in common is being “open” to one degree or another. Open can be ridiculous amounts of fun. Open can be obscene amounts of sexiness. Open can also be complex. This is a blog about all of it.
If you find yourself unfamiliar with some of the terminology (common at first), here’s a Glossary of Terms to help.
am i an ethical slut?
I don’t feel responsible for other people’s relationships. If he had wanted to cheat on his wife, it’s not really my job to protect her. That viewpoint might ruffle some feathers—and seem contradictory to my feminist, pro-woman stance—but the way I see it is if someone’s partner is cheating on them, they’ve got bigger issues than what I can be responsible for. Because I say no to someone, I’m helping save their marriage? Um, no. I do, however, have a feeling about the energy that is brought into an experience.