Openly undefined
The Heart & Soul of Non-Monogamy
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Ethical non-monogamy takes on many “forms”… polyamory, swinging, open marriage and everything in between. The thing about going non-traditional is that it gives you liberty to create what you want. Well, as long as everyone is aware and everyone is consenting. My husband and I classify as swingers, or in “the lifestyle.” We’ve met swingers who do swing, but don’t ‘identify’ with that term. We’ve met polyamorous couples who swing, and those who don’t. Actually, I have found that most open-relationship folks don’t really like to define themselves…it’s that whole non-traditional thing. The one thing we all have in common is being “open” to one degree or another. Open can be ridiculous amounts of fun. Open can be obscene amounts of sexiness. Open can also be complex. This is a blog about all of it.
If you find yourself unfamiliar with some of the terminology (common at first), here’s a Glossary of Terms to help.
the very very first time
We ended up closing down the club. At 3:30 the lights were flung on and employees started yelling at everyone that they needed to be out by 4:00. We couldn’t believe the time or how long we had stayed. In the locker room, a woman complimented me on my dress and said she had wanted to buy one like it. You could try it on, I offered. She wanted to so I pulled the dress off and handed it to her, right in front of her husband. None of us blinked an eye. I had no idea who I had become in these four or five hours.