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Ethical non-monogamy takes on many “forms”… polyamory, swinging, open marriage and everything in between. The thing about going non-traditional is that it gives you liberty to create what you want. Well, as long as everyone is aware and everyone is consenting. My husband and I classify as swingers, or in “the lifestyle.” We’ve met swingers who do swing, but don’t ‘identify’ with that term. We’ve met polyamorous couples who swing, and those who don’t. Actually, I have found that most open-relationship folks don’t really like to define themselves…it’s that whole non-traditional thing. The one thing we all have in common is being “open” to one degree or another. Open can be ridiculous amounts of fun. Open can be obscene amounts of sexiness. Open can also be complex. This is a blog about all of it.

If you find yourself unfamiliar with some of the terminology (common at first), here’s a Glossary of Terms to help.

Does a Threesome make you Non-Monogamous? My Hot Take.
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Does a Threesome make you Non-Monogamous? My Hot Take.

If a married couple has a threesome a few times a year, are they non-monogamous? Some would say yes. I'm not so sure. In this post I'm unpacking the difference between sexual adventure and ENM, why you still need the ENM skillset either way, and why you really need to stop trying to pick up a third at a vanilla bar. Read more.

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